Is is right for me to have a bad opinion of my mom?

I can understand exactly where you are coming from. I am a white female and most of my family is extremely prejudice. I am not prejudice at all and have had alot of problems with my family for being so open minded. I think everyone should be treated as equals no matter what color they are or if they are Jewish, Amish or anything else. I can understand your Moms side a little bit because there is no telling what she has heard that her Grandmother went through. But your Mom is taking it way too far. There are good people of all kinds and there are bad people of all kinds. I treat people as I want to be treated and that is the way it should be, even though it isn't that way most of the time. I think people should just leave people alone if they don't like them for their race, religion or whatever. My best friend is Spanish and alot of my family smarts off all of the time about how is your ******* friend. First off, she is not a *******. She is Spanish and even if she was a *******, I would still be her friend. I know some wetbacks and they are extremely nice people. Being an American citizen does not give your Mom or anyone else the right to act the way she is. So, yes, I feel you are not wrong for having bad feelings towards your Mom for making a fool out of herself. I would be totally embarred and have been by my family for years. I just finally learned after alot of embarrment and tears that my family will never change and am trying to accept it. Some of my family has nothing to do with me because I am trash in their eyes for having a spanish person in my life. I have finally told them how I feel and have nothing else to do with them anymore and have actually felt better not seeing them. Try to talk to your Mom and tell her how you feel. Don't argue with her. Just try to talk it all out. If your Mom gets all defensive and starts to scream and hollar, just get up and walk away. You are a good person and maybe if you talk to her, it will help. But don't hold your breath either. Good luck with everything.